How Keeping Your Goals To Yourself Will Help You Grow

Remember when you were a child and you would blow out the candles on your birthday cake? Make a wish, they would say, but do not tell anyone what you wished for because they might not come true! Did the child in you ever think it was an extremely silly statement to make? Why would you not tell your friends your dreams or your secrets? Was not the whole point of having goals so you could tell people and let them know you have crossed things off your checklist?

Growing up, I learnt the value of these words. I learnt people are rarely as transparent as they seem, often trying to one up you every time they think their goal is in line with yours. While most people can thrive under this kind of competition, there are some who just cannot work like this. If you fall under the second category of people, then this is how you can safeguard your goals, keep your friends close and still fulfill all your dreams!

1. Your dreams are yours and yours alone

One of the major issues I personally have with sharing your dream with others is that they tend to pick on things they do not understand. While it may seem as constructive feedback from their point of view, it really has a negative impact in the long run. Your dreams are yours and yours alone. No one has control over them and only you can work to make them come true. Let your dreams fester within, so they can take shape to something truly marvelous. The less you share, the more you know and the more you grow!

2. Your supporters might secretly be your biggest critics

More often than not, the loudest criticism is that which you get from those closest to you. While this may be a good thing, in most cases, it is usually a negative thing when it comes to listening to negative feedback on your dreams. The more often you listen to bad things, the more convinced you are your dream is never going to work out. Keep your friends close, but your dreams closer.

3. The ones who say no are always going to say no

Oftentimes, there are people in life who are going to bring you down no matter what you do or how much you achieve. From your regular hairdresser to the man who delivers you milk, these people can have a very negative impact. This is one of the major reasons as to why you should never, EVER let your dreams be made public.

4. Talking about your dreams can make them go away

No, really. If you think this is a joke, think again. How many times have you truly, madly, deeply wanted something and how many time has that not come true? The more you talk about your dreams, the less importance you give them and the less chances they have of coming true. When you really want to make something happen, make sure you and you alone know what your end goal is! This will work wonders, I promise.

The people in my life were never wrong about not sharing your wishes with anyone and for me, this message has really worked. Keep your dreams close and your desires closer, therefore making sure the life you lead is the life you have always wanted!